This month we’re talking about DEARMAN and how we can skillfully obtain objectives or say no.

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We often believe we can outthink our emotions and sensations that come along. The reality is we are feeling machines by nature and must learn how to navigate these complicated systems instead of ignoring, avoiding, or judging them.

This quote always reminds us of our model of emotions which highlights just how complicated an emotional experience can be!

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DBT Alumni is a drop-in workshop open to adults with current or former DBT experience. We gather from 5pm-6:30pm on the last Monday of the month to brush up on DBT skills and connect with other members of this skillful community.

We ask folks for a drop-in fee by donation - bring what you can, if you can! All donations go to @bpdsocietyofbc - A grassroots charity started by individuals with BPD and their family members.

If you are interested please contact daniellenbclo@gmail.com or 250-777-1608 for more info or to register.

Healing is not a race, it doesn’t have a timeline and it should never stop. 🌱

When you have experienced trauma and/or neglect your nervous system will want to protect itself. As a result, it will start “cutting” the connections from your brain to your body. Imagine if you were "cut off" at the neck so your brain can continue to live, think, go to work, pay the bills, etc.
without being overwhelmed by the sensory input and painful emotions from the body. This is helpful because if you did feel all the physical and emotional pain your body is receiving it would eventually lead to a mental breakdown. So our bodies response it to disconnect the brain and the body in an attempt to make survival possible. It allows us to survive the trauma by not feeling the pain. So what happens when you`re out of the traumatic situation?
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Generally speaking, you live in this disconnected state struggling to regulate emotions and understanding yourself as you haven’t learned the tools needed to cope with the trauma. We can unpack this trauma and fill you with tools to cope and reverse this state of being.

A little read for your morning coffee.
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How do we access the wise mind?
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- Assess what mind you are in Rational OR Emotional.
- Acknowledge and accept these thoughts and emotions that you are experiencing rather than trying to alter them. (altering them could only make you more wound up)
- Diffuse yourself of the situation (this is not about me personally, this is about a situation which is multilayered)
- What are all the other factors/bigger picture? (People around us can sometimes act from a place of fear and insecurity - don`t confused this with your own sense of self)
- Accept part of the human experience is that we will encounter disappointments, injustices and other unfortunate happenings from time to time, but it does not equal our future.
- Find different groups of people that don`t confirm your bias and help you see different perspectives.
- Say no to unreasonable requests.
-Give yourself more time.
- Create opportunities for recharge to avoid burnout and give you a sense of stability.
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